An Update

I have been really bad about updating because really nothing has been going on. Actually, let me clarify that, nothing cancer related has been going on.

I am 4 days away from my surgery date. I had to wait 8 weeks and 4 days to have surgery after my radiation, so here we are….the 8 weeks have flown by and we are in the final countdown. I’m ready. I’m scared. I know i have to have this surgery but it. is. surgery. I’m not a wuss and can handle the pain- i just don’t like the unknowns (hello type A over here). This is the time where i have to give up control and let the surgeon do his part and let my body do its part ( i have been incredibly kind to it over the past 8 weeks) and let God do the rest.

I really want to share some fun pictures from the mini-honeymoon that Carson and i took last week. It ended up that i had a couple days off, and i was able to get a co-worker to switch a couple shifts, and bam. I had 6 days off. And what better way to spend those 6 days but in Mexico? We bought tickets TWO days before we left and headed last Wednesday to Cancun, with my surgeon’s permission of course. He just said not to eat the ice (drink the water). Ok, so no blendy drinks. No big deal.

We booked 6 days/5 nights at Unico 20 87, which i have to say has been my favorite resort we have visited so far. It is closer to Tulum than Cancun, so a bit more of a drive, but the resort is 2 years old and absolutely gorgeous. https://www.unicohotelrivieramaya.com The name comes from the coordinates of where the resort is located, 20 degrees north and 87 degrees west and is an all inclusive, (unlimited food, drinks, free wifi and a host of other amenities). The resort is modern, and beautiful and swanky. The food is unreal- from chips and guac to hotdogs by the pool, to steak, to seafood- and the 4 restaurants (+ room service, + two bars by the pool that served food) did not let us down. They also have an app that you download to your phone- it is easy to use – you can request a turndown service, make dinner or spa reservations and read up on all of the restaurants. It also tells you all the cooking classes that are scheduled, the activities of the day, and what the nightly entertainment is.

I will also reiterate that Carson and i felt TOTALLY safe traveling to Mexico and while at the resort. The drinks were strong (not tainted) and we never had a bad encounter. We loved Unico so much that we will be going back…and we usually try a different resort each time we go to Mexico, but this place is so amazing that we want to go back. We had the most perfect mini-honeymoon. 🙂

One Week Anniversary

I have not done a good job keeping up with updates. I am sorry. I was busy with work. And then went on vacation. And then got married. And now i have been married for a whole week. People ask “how is married life?” And i tell them, that it is exactly like non-married life, except we are now married and not living in sin. 🙂

Carson and i were married on July 26th, which was our 5 year anniversary of meeting on Tinder. Yes, we met on Tinder. We both swiped right and talked that night (he was walking home from the bar after being dumped by not one, but two girls….he was dating both, and i was working overnight at the VA and it was slow), only to set up a date on July 31st at Edmund’s Oast. That night we ordered WAY too much food, had some good drinks, and made out in the parking lot. Classy, i know.

Fast forward almost 5 years later to February 2019, when we got engaged while on vacation in Mexico. Our plan then was to get married the following February at my parents house, having a large brunch reception for friends and family afterwards. We all know that my diagnosis changed those plans a little, as February 2020 would put me right in the middle of chemotherapy and i did NOT want to be a bald bride. We toyed with the idea of getting married at the courthouse but it seemed too impersonal for me. So we decided to get married on the 26th of this month, on our 5 year anniversary, surrounded by immediate family and loved ones. We were already going to be on vacation with his family, and my family (parents, sister, and brother and his wife and their two kids) came up for the celebration. And our good friends Duane and Lisa Price married us- DP got ordained on the internet and Lisa already had her South Carolina notary (DP likes to say he is “Holy AF” haha).

My life has felt like a roller coaster over the past three months, with dips and hills and flips, all while dealing with the emotional side effects of being diagnosed with cancer (and thinking i might die) and then starting treatment with radiation and xeloda. I am now currently awaiting surgery and my body is healing from the previous 6 weeks of treatment. However, on my wedding day, my rollercoaster ride stopped at the top of the hill and allowed me to view everything around me and enjoy. I was happy and carefree and married the love of my life- and not once during that day did i think about cancer. It was a perfect day.

I wanted to share these wedding pictures with y’all. I hope you enjoy them and can see/feel the love we shared that day.